Being a Sandwich Carer: Supporting Two Generations and Finding Balance

Many people find themselves part of what’s known as the “sandwich generation” caring for their own children while also supporting ageing parents or relatives. It’s a role filled with love, responsibility and pride, but also one that can feel emotionally and physically draining at times.

At Homelium Care, we work closely with many families in this position and see first-hand the incredible strength it takes to juggle these responsibilities. Here’s a closer look at what it means to be a sandwich carer, the challenges it brings and how to find the right balance.

What Is a Sandwich Carer?

A sandwich carer is someone who supports both an older loved one (such as a parent) and younger dependents (like children or teenagers) at the same time.

This can involve:

• Managing daily care for an elderly parent or relative

• Helping with household tasks, shopping, or medical appointments

• Supporting children’s education and emotional wellbeing

• Balancing work, finances, and personal time

Many people don’t even realise they’re “carers”, they simply see it as looking after family. But recognising this role is the first step toward getting the right support with care for their loved one and in turn, respite for themselves.

The Challenges Sandwich Carers Face

Being pulled in two directions can take a toll. Sandwich carers often describe feeling:

• Guilty for not doing enough, whether it’s with their children, parent, or at work

• Exhausted from constant multitasking and lack of rest

• Financially stretched, especially if they reduce work hours to care

• Emotionally torn, with little time left for themselves

Over time, this can lead to burnout, stress and a decline in mental health. And yet, many carers feel they “just have to keep going.”

Finding Balance and Support

No one can pour from an empty cup and caring for two generations means your own wellbeing matters more than ever.

Here are some ways to find support and maintain balance:

1. Ask for help early – Whether from siblings, friends, or professionals, sharing the load makes a difference.

2. Use local services – Many councils and charities offer respite, day centres, or carer support groups.

3. Consider professional home care – Services like Homelium Care can provide flexible, trusted support so you can step back and focus on being a son, daughter, or parent, not just a carer.

4. Look after your own health – Even small breaks, walks, or quiet time can help reset your energy and mindset.

5. Connect with other carers – You’re not alone. Talking to others in similar situations can bring comfort and practical advice.

How Homelium Care Can Help

We understand the pressures sandwich carers face, because we support them every day.

Our team can step in to help your loved one stay safe, independent and comfortable at home, from daily companionship and personal care to help with meals, cleaning, or medication.

We also know how important peace of mind is. Having a trusted, fully trained carer means you can focus on your family, your career and your own wellbeing, knowing your loved one is in kind and capable hands.

Final Thoughts

Being a sandwich carer is an act of love, but it can also be overwhelming. You don’t have to do it all on your own.

At Homelium Care, we’re here to support families like yours, helping you find balance, maintain independence and ensure everyone gets the respite, care and understanding they deserve.

If you’d like to talk about how we can help, visit our Contact Page or call our friendly team today on 0333 3448 677.