How to Deal with Dementia-Related Aggression: A Guide for Families

Homelium
Jul 23
2 min read

Aggression can be one of the most distressing symptoms of dementia—for both the person living with it and the loved ones caring for them. Outbursts, shouting, or even physical behaviour can come on suddenly and feel completely out of character.

If you're dealing with this at home, you're not alone. At Homelium, we support many families across the South of England who are facing similar challenges. This guide is here to help you understand what’s going on and how to respond safely and compassionately.

🧠 Why Does Dementia Cause Aggression?

Dementia affects the brain’s ability to process information, regulate emotions, and understand the world. Aggression is rarely intentional—it’s usually a sign of fear, frustration, pain, or confusion.

Common triggers include:

Not understanding what’s happening
Feeling rushed or overwhelmed
Pain or discomfort (e.g., infections, hunger, needing the toilet)
Changes in routine or environment
Hallucinations or paranoia

🧘‍♀️ How to Respond to Aggression Safely

Stay calm and give space
Even if you’re frightened or hurt, take a deep breath. Speak softly and avoid arguing or correcting.
Don’t take it personally
The aggression is a symptom of the illness—not a reflection of how your loved one truly feels.
Try to identify the cause
Are they in pain? Are they too hot, hungry, or tired? Gentle observation can help prevent future episodes.
Reassure, don’t reason
Phrases like “You’re safe,” or “I’m here to help” are more effective than explaining why they’re wrong.
Distract or redirect
Try changing the topic, environment, or activity. A cup of tea, music, or a walk can help shift the mood.

🧑‍⚕️ When to Seek Professional Support

Aggression that becomes frequent or dangerous needs support. You don’t have to cope alone.

You should speak to a GP, memory clinic, or care provider if:

Aggression puts you or your loved one at risk
It’s linked to pain or sudden changes in behaviour
You’re feeling overwhelmed or burnt out as a carer

At Homelium, we offer specialist dementia home care and can help families in West Sussex, Surrey, Hampshire, Dorset, Essex, and Somerset manage challenging behaviours with calm, consistent support.

🤝 How Homelium Can Help

Our carers are trained in dementia care and non-pharmacological behaviour management—we understand how to prevent and de-escalate aggression gently and effectively.

We can offer: