The ‘Red Flags’ You Shouldn’t Ignore in an Elderly Relative

Homelium
Jul 2
2 min read

As our loved ones age, small changes can be easy to overlook — but some signs may point to deeper issues that shouldn't be ignored. Whether you're visiting a parent, grandparent, or neighbour, recognising these red flags early can prevent accidents, health decline, or even emergency hospital visits.

Here are some of the most common warning signs that it might be time to consider extra support at home.

🚩 1. Frequent Falls or Near Misses

Trips over rugs, struggling with stairs, or needing to steady themselves on furniture can all indicate a decline in mobility or balance — and increase the risk of serious injury.

What to watch for: Bruises, unexplained marks, or them joking about “another little wobble.”

🚩 2. Changes in Personal Hygiene

If you notice unwashed clothes, body odour, or dirty hair, it may be a sign that tasks like bathing or laundry have become too difficult or are being forgotten.

Why it matters: Poor hygiene can lead to skin infections, urinary tract issues, or social withdrawal.

🚩 3. Unopened Post or Missed Appointments

Letters stacking up, unpaid bills, or confusion around medical appointments may indicate memory problems or overwhelm.

Don’t ignore: This could be an early sign of cognitive decline or depression.

🚩 4. Weight Loss or Empty Cupboards

Malnutrition is common among elderly people living alone. If you notice sudden weight loss or a lack of fresh food, it might mean they're struggling to shop, cook, or even eat properly.

🚩 5. A Decline in Housekeeping

A once-tidy home becoming dusty, cluttered or even unsafe (e.g. extension cords, loose rugs) is often a sign that keeping on top of daily tasks has become too much.

🚩 6. Memory Lapses or Confusion

Misplacing items, repeating stories, or forgetting important details are more than just “senior moments.” These could signal early dementia or another underlying issue.

🚩 7. Mood Swings or Isolation

A change in mood, becoming snappy, withdrawn, or unusually quiet can point to loneliness, anxiety, or depression.

Tip: Listen to how they speak about their days. “I just watch TV” or “Nobody really comes round” are subtle cries for help.

🚩 8. Neglecting Medication

Missing doses, taking too much, or not knowing what the medication is for can have serious consequences — especially when multiple conditions are being managed.

🚩 9. Poor Mobility or Struggling with Daily Tasks

Even basic activities like dressing, cooking, or cleaning the bathroom might become unsafe without support.

Try asking gently: “Do you ever feel unsafe doing things around the house?”

🚩 10. Family Carers Becoming Stretched

If you or another family member is feeling burned out trying to help — that's a red flag in itself. Your wellbeing matters too.

What Should You Do Next?

If you're seeing one or more of these signs, it doesn’t mean your loved one needs to move into a care home — but it might be time to get support in place at home.

At Homelium, we offer: